STEPMOM

The stepmom finds herself in a difficult position, and it happens too often in a stepfamily. The position of the stepmom is often the most difficult one in the stepfamily system. Do you find yourself going through these emotions?

As The Stepmom:

Do you feel like “an outsider” in the home, with everyone else sharing the same past?

Do you feel that your spouse does not give you the support you need?

Do you feel like you don’t have a say in the kids’ discipline or rules of the house?

Do you feel disrespected or disliked by the stepchildren?

Do you feel overwhelmed by all there is to do, and no time for yourself?

Do you feel unappreciated; you do everything a mom does, but get no credit?

Do you want to take your child’s side against the stepchild’s?

Does it seem that your husband gives too much time or is too lenient with his kids?

Do you worry about whether your relationship can get through this?

Does it feel like the kids are rivals against you for their dad’s time, love and affection?

Do you feel like you can’t learn all there is to know about being a parent?

Is your husband’s ex making it harder for you than it needs to be?

Know that these are the feelings the stepmom faces in most stepfamilies! They are NORMAL reactions of the stepmom to the structure of a stepfamily. You are not alone – these experiences and feelings are common to stepmoms. How do you deal with them, and how do you make your stepfamily successful? If you’re finding the stepmom role to be a hard role to manage, start by learning all you can of the basics. Look into the 6-week online course Creating a Successful Stepfamily.