http://stepmomsos.com/advice-for-the-stepmom-3/2010/01/ Step By Step Family Success Wed, 01 Feb 2012 03:28:07 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 http://stepmomsos.com/advice-for-the-stepmom-3/2010/01/comment-page-1/#comment-1933 Jessica Fri, 09 Sep 2011 22:36:55 +0000 http://stepmomsos.com/?p=132#comment-1933 Okay - I am actually feeling alot of these ways, and more so confused about how my husband deals with things with his Ex and his children... I feel like our marriage comes 2nd to what his Ex says or wants, he allows her to control what days we can switch and or what days work best for her, and if we have ever asked to do this she says no and we are stuck trying to figure something else out. It has gotten so bad that now my husband wont even ask to make a change and he says that now he doesnt want to deal with her and even her saying negative things about him to the kids, but yet when she wants something he does it because he says she will not allow him to talk to kids or see them (yes even though they have a court order) so needless to say, I told him he needs to put our marriage 1st even if it means taking a trip and putting us into perspective and if it happens to be a weekend she wont change, then he needs to readjust and just make it happen and pick up his children the following weekend. He refused and said I was giving him an untimatium, I really dont feel this is the case espcially since this is maybe the 1st time I have asked for this type of alter to the schedule in well over a year... I have a son too and we have him FT and all I hear about is how I have it good and I dont have to deal with this or that, but to be honest, he isnt dealing with anything if he never addresses it or backs me up... I am at a crossroad with my marriage, do I want to have a spouse that devotes himself to me only when it doesnt involve his kids or Ex? Okay – I am actually feeling alot of these ways, and more so confused about how my husband deals with things with his Ex and his children… I feel like our marriage comes 2nd to what his Ex says or wants, he allows her to control what days we can switch and or what days work best for her, and if we have ever asked to do this she says no and we are stuck trying to figure something else out. It has gotten so bad that now my husband wont even ask to make a change and he says that now he doesnt want to deal with her and even her saying negative things about him to the kids, but yet when she wants something he does it because he says she will not allow him to talk to kids or see them (yes even though they have a court order) so needless to say, I told him he needs to put our marriage 1st even if it means taking a trip and putting us into perspective and if it happens to be a weekend she wont change, then he needs to readjust and just make it happen and pick up his children the following weekend. He refused and said I was giving him an untimatium, I really dont feel this is the case espcially since this is maybe the 1st time I have asked for this type of alter to the schedule in well over a year… I have a son too and we have him FT and all I hear about is how I have it good and I dont have to deal with this or that, but to be honest, he isnt dealing with anything if he never addresses it or backs me up… I am at a crossroad with my marriage, do I want to have a spouse that devotes himself to me only when it doesnt involve his kids or Ex?

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