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The Truwell Method

The conflicts and obstacles inherent to the stepfamily structure are unique. These challenges are intensified by stepfamily dynamics that often trigger old negative emotional patterns.  Some aspects of stepfamily life are just plain painful, and are hard to get through!  It doesn’t feel good to be rejected, even if it is a normal part of a stepfamily’s formation.  Or we can feel just awful about being jealous of our husband’s or wife’s child.  Sometimes, the anger at an ex makes us feel like we’re ready to explode.  Your buttons are being pushed, because your past is being activated… The Truwell Method uses a breakthrough process that helps to reprogram those limiting emotional patterns.  In your private Truwell coaching session, you will: •    Identify the core pattern underlying your obstacle
•    Release its negative charge and actually re-process it in your brain
•    Experience a flood of positive energy to the mind and body, resulting in an expanded healing state; or experience a purely psychological shift
•    Have increased self-acceptance and acceptance of others resulting from this higher state of awareness
•    Enjoy a fresh perspective, allowing a more resourceful and creative approach to the problem
•    Replace dysfunctional patterns with healthy emotional ones Shift your perspective with private Truwell Coaching Session: Contact Us (link to joan@stepfamilysolutions.com) to learn more, and schedule your complimentary 15-minute consultation. Truwell Technology  (MORE) The Truwell one on one coaching can  be done in person or by phone.  I work primarily with the parents in the stepfamily. In tough stepfamily situations, old negative emotional patterns get activated – and then it’s much harder to find the patience or understanding we really need to deal with the present.  That’s what’s called pushing your buttons – and it’s YOUR buttons because it’s Your past that gets activated. The Truwell Method I use identifies what your button is, and actually defuses the emotion behind it so that it gets re-processed in your brain.  I’ll give you an example from my own life (and I used this technology freely for myself and my husband, and with our kids as they became older):
As is common in stepfamilies, I and my stepdaughter frequently felt some rivalry for my husband/her dad’s love and attention.  She was my husband’s little princess, his pride and joy, and I would get downright jealous when he’d tuck her into bed – it seemed like they would spend FOREVER read books, talked about her day, sang songs, etc.  I’d be fuming in the other room, wanting to know when MY time was going to come (we were busy professionals and that quiet time at the end of the day was pretty precious!)  So when my frustration level was close to the roof, I did a Truwell process on myself and what came to the surface was the fact I was fourth child of 8, and don’t ever remember ONCE my dad putting me to bed – or really having any one on one time with him.  It was that little girl inside of me that was fuming; I released that pain and re-processed it – in the process and afterwards, nurturing myself and giving that little girl inside me what she needed. Then I was able to relax and allow much more for them to have their time together; and to request my alone time with him in a more constructive way. It’s like untying a knot that you may not have even known it was there – but when those circumstances come up again, you won’t get stuck at that knot point.  The record doesn’t get stuck in that groove anymore, and you’ve got new tools to take a fresh, creative approach to the challenging situation.  You also meet the situation with more self-acceptance, as well as acceptance of others. A major shift can happen when your perception is freed up, when have the freedom to see what is, and  to process the current situation accurately because it’s not colored by your past experience.  Then you can come closer to accepting the stepchild, your spouse, or the ex for who he or she is – as a human being going through their own stuff. Over time, with a solid understanding of normal stepfamily patterns, good communication, and use of the Truwell Method, you can replace dysfunctional patterns with healthy emotional ones and find your stepfamily functioning better and better. Note:  The Truwell Technology is not appropriate for individuals who have been diagnosed with PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder).  I do this work as an educator, as a coach to help people through the difficult spots.  If I identify an issue that is deeper and requires therapy, I refer them to therapists with training in stepfamilies.